What do you gain when you choose mediation over court?
If you are going through a divorce, you are no stranger to stress. The process of separating from a spouse is often socially, emotionally and financially difficult. You do not want to make this part of your life any more taxing than it already is, and going to court would certainly add to the stress that is likely already mounting. There is an alternative, however, that can help you avoid court and settle your divorce.
Mediation is an increasingly popular option for people who want to negotiate the details of their divorce without facing the pressure and expense of doing so in court. There are a few benefits you should know about if you are considering mediation.
Prevent unnecessary expenses
According to the American Bar Association, mediation can be anywhere from 40 to 60 percent less expensive than pursuing litigation for a divorce. It is easy to see why—mediation is also typically much less time-consuming, so the expense of retaining a lawyer is minimized, and you are also effectively sidestepping the court costs that might otherwise be incurred.
Set a good example for kids
If you and your ex have kids, you should be concerned with what kind of example you are setting for them during this difficult time. Divorce is incredibly stressful for kids, and it is even worse if parents are openly hostile towards each other. Mediation shows kids that you are willing to compromise and engage without any combativeness.
Practice collaboration with ex
Whether you have kids or not, your ex is likely to be in your life for a period of time during and after the divorce. It will only make matters worse if you are unable to communicate with them politely and productively. Mediation gives you the chance to practice doing this. During mediation, you will collaborate with your ex, which is a skill you should develop for future use.